What’s better? To be loved or to be desired?
They feel adjacent, but they are wholly different. Love comes from every part of you being seen, accepted, and appreciated. Desire is an agenda. I want something; anyone that helps me get closer to it becomes a means to an end.
In the presence of social desire, the gays are reduced to the function of a catalyst, a stop along the road, not a destination.
The “trophy gay” is sold as flattery, a prized eccentricity in an otherwise homogenous friend group. A gay is noticed, singled out, interpreted and judged long before anyone they are surrounded with.
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